(522) 「灵粮主题 TODAY’s Topic」 面对冲突都得存有爱来处理 Facing Conflict Be Handled with Love

「灵粮经节 TODAY’s Verses」：「不要叫神的圣灵担忧；你们原是受了他的印记，等候得赎的日子来到。一切苦毒、恼恨、忿怒、嚷闹、毁谤，并一切的恶毒，都当从你们中间除掉；并要以恩慈相待，存怜悯的心，彼此饶恕，正如神在基督里饶恕了你们一样; And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.」（以弗所书 Ephesians 4: 30-32 节）

「灵粮分享 TODAY’s Sharing」：当神的灵感动你，引领你来到耶稣的面前认罪，认识祂接受主的救恩，籍着神的儿子耶稣的救赎，神便会差派祂的圣灵，就像启示录 9: 4 节里描述的一样，神的灵也就是指着圣灵的印记保惠师，就会居住在你的心殿里带领照顾你，你也就有被称做神儿女的名分。有了这印记保惠师，神都在亲近相顾你，希望信徒都能坚守此信心，走完人生该走的义路荣耀祂的圣名，遵守救主福音的教导，学有耶稣的模样，行事为人都能以仁爱来行善表达，爱神也要爱人如己。所以保罗在今日灵粮所引用的经节里，也都这样劝导我们在每天的行事为人，都不要让居住在我们心殿里的圣灵担忧，都要以恩慈相待。与人交往之间若有冲突关系，都得存有怜悯的心，彼此饶恕，正如神的宽容不变之爱，在基督里饶恕了我们一样。有一位牧师也就引用马太福音 5: 21-24 节，提到耶稣警告我们做信徒的，要避免冲突的后果，说， “所以，你在祭坛上献礼物的时候，若想起弟兄向你怀怨，就把礼物留在坛前，先去同弟兄和好，然後来献礼物。”

今晨在「圣经日日行 We Devote」里，甘力克牧师 Rev. Nicky Gumbel 写了一篇， “如何面对冲突” 的分享。牧者引用以弗所书 Ephesians 4: 15 节，提示教导我们做信徒的，既然蒙召做了神的儿女，行事为人就当与蒙召的恩典相称。在日常生活，事奉与人交往之间，若遇有冲突时，要明白我们都活在耶稣基督一体里的一个肢体，要持守恩爱说诚实话。凡事长进，都得连於我们教会之首的救主耶稣基督。凡事谦虚、温柔、忍耐，也都得用爱心互相宽容服侍人。这也就是「今日灵粮 Spiritual FOOD TODAY」主题所要分享的, “面对冲突都得存有爱来处理” 。

鲍勃牧师解释道，应对冲突是件很需要技巧的事。关键是要找到切入点，说合宜的话。或者，套用一个高尔夫术语 — 要晓得该用哪一根球杆。那些善于应对冲突的人不但晓得解决之道在哪，要用何种方式表达意见，还知道在不同情况下使用不同方法。其实很多冲突是可以避免的。因为并非所有批评都需要被回应，也不是所有错误结论都需要被更正。

接着牧者举例引用约翰福音 3: 1-21 节来解释如何以爱心直面冲突。在这段经节里耶稣的对话故事是关于，（1） 耶稣在教导一个法利赛人的高官，名叫尼哥底母的；（2） 另一方面说到在旷野为耶稣开先锋的施洗约翰，约翰再次給耶稣的救恩与爱心作见证。牧者说，与那些处在低位或劣势的人发生冲突相对容易，可即便占了上风，也有 “仗势欺人” 之嫌。但敢于跟在工作领域、社会地位以及财富等方面都高于自己的人正面交锋，就需要很大勇气了。经节里说到耶稣非常善于处理冲突。他从来不会临阵脱逃。但耶稣与人对峙的原因都是出于爱。尼哥底姆地位高贵。他是一个道德高尚的法利赛人，经文的第1节里告诉我们，他是 “犹太人的高官”。 但耶稣却没有因尼哥底姆的权位而感到畏惧。耶稣凭着爱心挑战尼哥底姆，在第 3 节里指出他需要 “重生”才能得救，也就是要重新开始，将恶习、错误的做事方法统统抛掉。重生意味着彻底更新。在第 5 节里，耶稣告诉尼哥底姆也要从水和圣灵重生。外在的洗礼必须伴随着圣灵的内住，在本篇起首的分享里，我们也都提过，有着圣灵的印记保惠师居在你的心殿里，祂就会帮助引导你过着有属灵恩爱，也能显露出耶稣所教导的爱人如己的生活。

世界已经是一团乱麻。人们常会问，“神为什么不做点儿什么？” 答案是：祂做了！神以圣子耶稣的样式来到世间，为我们死，又为我们复活。耶稣完全理解苦难。他为我们承受苦难，也和我们一同经历苦难。很多人不再相信死后还有生命。但耶稣承诺，在 15 节里，耶稣告诉我们，信祂的，“你们就有永生！” 此生并非终局，坟墓之外还有盼望。耶稣为你带来了永恒。

冲突和定罪是有很大的区别。耶稣会与人发生冲突，但祂不定他们的罪。耶稣本不是来定罪的，在 17-18 节里，说祂要把人从罪中解救出来。 同样，你我也不应该定人的罪，而是要向他们传播使罪人得救的福音。拯救意味着让人脱离危险，摆脱枷锁，医治、重建灵魂，让人得自由。所以，当我们面对冲突，你都得存有爱来处理，用爱心互相宽容服侍人。大家星期五开心，周末愉快！

「灵粮祷告 TODAY’s Prayer」：当这一切都说完了，在本篇分享的总结里 「今日灵粮 Spiritual FOOD TODAY」也就引用歌罗西书 Colossians 3: 13-14 节，让大家在主的爱里能互相勉励与祷告。保罗在经节里，提醒我们在生活里与人往来，处事为人，难免遇上摩擦，但是，“面对冲突都得存有爱来处理”。所以他的教导有着这么说的, “倘若这人与那人有嫌隙，总要彼此包容，彼此饶恕；主怎样饶恕了你们，你们也要怎样饶恕人。在这一切之外，要存着爱心，爱心就是联络全德的。” 求神怜悯帮助，但愿保惠师带领，我们就不至在冲突里得不到和解而跌倒。祷告奉主的名，阿门！

When the Spirit of God inspires you and leads you to come to Jesus, confess your sins before Him, know Jesus and accept Him as the Lord of your salvation, through the redemption of Jesus, as He is the Son of God. God will send His Holy Spirit, just like Revelation 9: 4 has described for this Spirit of God, and thus here referred as the Holy Spirit’s seal and Comforter, will live in the temple of your heart to guide and care for you, and you will have the title of being called a child of God. With this Seal and Comforter, God is keeping close contact with you and caring for you. I hope that believers can stick to this faith, walk in the path of righteousness that they should take in life, glorify His holy name, abide by the teachings of the Savior’s gospel, and learn to be like Jesus. Everyone can behave with kindness and express themselves in good deeds. If you love God, you must also love your neighbor as yourself. Therefore, in the verses Paul quoted in today’s spiritual food, he also advises us in our daily conduct not to grieve the Holy Spirit who lives in the temple of our hearts but encourages us to treat others with kindness. If there is conflict in our interactions with others, we must have compassion and forgive each other, just as God’s tolerant and unchanging love in Christ has forgiven us. A pastor also quoted Matthew 5: 21-24, mentioning that Jesus warned us as believers to avoid the consequences of conflict, saying, “Therefore, when you are offering your gift on the altar, if you think of your brother who has a grudge against you, leave your gift before the altar, first go and be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”

This morning in "We Devote," Pastor Rev. Nicky Gumbel wrote an article about "How to Face Conflict." The pastor quoted Ephesians 4:15 to remind us that as believers, since we have been called to be children of God, we should behave in a manner worthy of the grace to which we have been called. In daily life, service and interactions with others, if there is a conflict, we must understand that we are all members of the one body of Jesus Christ, and we must maintain love and speak the truth. All growth must be connected to the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who is the head of our church. Be humble, gentle, and patient in everything you do, and you must also be tolerant of one another and serve others with love. This is what the theme of "今日灵粮 Spiritual FOOD TODAY" is about to share, "Facing Conflict Be Handled with Love."

Pastor Bob explains that dealing with conflict requires skill. The key is to find the entry point and say the right words. Or, to use a golf term — knowing which club to use. Those who are good at dealing with conflict not only know where to find solutions, how to express their opinions, but also how to use different methods in different situations. In fact, many conflicts can be avoided. Because not all criticisms need to be responded to, and not all erroneous conclusions need to be corrected.

Pastor Bob then quoted John 3: 1-21 as an example to explain how to face conflicts with love. The story of Jesus’ dialogues in these verses are about, (1) Jesus teaches a high-ranking Pharisee named Nicodemus; and also (2) About the pioneers for Jesus in the wilderness John the Baptist, John once again testified to the salvation and love of Jesus. The pastor said that it is relatively easy to conflict with those who are in a lower position or at a disadvantage, but even if you gain the upper hand, there is still a sense of "bullying". But it takes a lot of courage to dare to confront people who are higher than you in terms of work field, social status and wealth. The scriptures say that Jesus was very good at handling conflict. He never runs away from a fight. But the reason why Jesus confronts people is out of love. Nicodemus had a noble status. He was a Pharisee with high moral standards. Verse 1 of the scripture tells us that he was a “high official of the Jews.” But Jesus was not intimidated by Nicodemus’ power. Jesus challenged Nicodemus in love and pointed out in verse 3 that he needed to be “born again” to be saved, that is, to start over and throw away all bad habits and wrong ways of doing things. Rebirth means radical renewal. In verse 5, Jesus tells Nicodemus to also be born again of water and the Spirit. External baptism must be accompanied by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. In the sharing at the beginning of this spiritual food article, we have also mentioned that if the Comforter with the seal of the Holy Spirit resides in your heart, He will help guide you in your life. Having spiritual love can also reveal the life of loving your neighbor as yourself as taught by Jesus.

The world is already a mess. People often ask, "Why doesn't God do something?" The answer is: He did! God came to the world in the form of His Son Jesus, died for us, and was resurrected for us. Jesus fully understands suffering. He suffered for us and with us. Many people no longer believe in life after death. But Jesus promises that in verse 15, Jesus tells us that whoever believes in Him, “you have eternal life!” This life is not the end, there is hope beyond the grave. Jesus brings eternity to you. There is a big difference between conflict and conviction. Jesus will have conflicts with people, but He will not condemn them. Jesus did not come to condemn people. In verses 17-18, He said that He wanted to save people from their sins. Likewise, you and I should not condemn people, but preach to them the gospel that saves sinners. To save means to deliver people from danger, to break free from chains, to heal and rebuild souls, to set people free. Therefore, when we face conflicts, we must handle them with love, tolerate each other and serve others with love. Happy Friday everyone and have a great weekend!

When all this is said and done, in the summary of this sharing, "今日灵粮 Spiritual FOOD TODAY" would like to quote Colossians 3: 13-14, allowing everyone to pray for each other, and encourage each other in the love of the Lord. In the verses, Paul reminds us that when dealing with people in life and dealing with others, we will inevitably encounter friction, but "all conflicts must be handled with love." So, his teachings say, "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Pray that God will have mercy and help us, and grant us Lord that the Comforter will lead us in our life, so that we will not fail to reconcile with other in conflicts. Pray in the name of the Lord, Amen!

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